Posted on March 05 2016
Who doesn’t love butts? They’re cute to look at, fun to grab, and can be the source of powerful pleasure. Spanking and other forms of touch can be exhilarating, but I’m talking about the real “butt stuff.”
Anal play isn’t as taboo of a subject as you may think, and the issues surrounding it are mostly myths. Check out the below to know the facts before you play.
Myth: Anal is only something gay men participate in.
Truth: It’s perfectly normal for a straight man to enjoy anal stimulation, and it can be equally enjoyable for women, too. The anus is full of rich nerve endings that are capable of being titillating for anyone. The male prostate gland (also called the p-spot) can be stimulated through the rectum and is a well-known source of male pleasure. Many men find joy in prostate massages, which may also have health benefits.
Myth: Butt play leads to bowel incontinence.
Truth: Don’t believe everything you see in the movies. Bowel incontinence is very uncommon during anal play. Those who have toned PC muscles (don’t forget your Kegal exercises, folks!) actually have increased bowel control.
Myth: It’s messy.
Truth: Unless you need to have a bowel movement, you most likely won’t encounter a significant amount of fecal matter. Washing up before is always a courteous thing to do. Some swear by anal douching, but the choice really comes down to personal preference.
Decide what’s best for you.
Great anal play can involve fingers, tongue, penis, or a variety of sex toys. After you choose your favorite lube, it really depends on your preference. If you like a feeling of stretching or fullness, a butt plug may do you wonders. If you prefer thrusting, use a dildo that you’re comfortable with. Many find extreme pleasure from the use of anal beads, and there are also prostate massagers designed specifically for the male anatomy. For safety purposes, anal toys should always have a flared base for easy removal.
Explore some back door fun!
Make sure you remember these pointers when you’re ready to play:1. Use plenty of lube.
The anus doesn’t produce any natural lubrication, so a good lube is a must-have. Don’t hesitate to reapply as necessary. If you’re using a water-based lubricant and it becomes dry, you can also reinvigorate it with water or saliva.
2. Relax.
If your muscles are clenched, it’s probably not going to be a very pleasurable ride. Practice relaxing your sphincter muscles by taking a few deep breaths and making sure you’re not too tense.
3. Go slow.
The person on the receiving side of anal stimulation should always be the one in control. Let he/she be the one to decide the amount of penetration and speed.
4. Be alert.
Anal penetration shouldn’t be painful. If it is, you may be rushing things or not using enough lube. Forget about Anal-Ese or other desensitizing products. You should be well aware of the stimulation so you can gauge what’s comfortable and safe – and enjoy the pleasure! Also, be careful if you play under the influence of drugs or alcohol, as your tolerance for pain might be affected.
5. Don’t cross-contaminate.
If you’re playing with a female partner, never touch or penetrate the vagina after anal stimulation without washing up or using a fresh condom. Even trace amount of fecal matter in the vagina can result in a vaginal or urinary tract infection.
6. Practice safer-sex
The anal cavity is very sensitive. STIs are more likely to be transmitted via anal sex than vaginal intercourse because the anus is more prone to minor tears. Also, pregnancy risk isn’t totally eliminated – sperm seeping out and into the vagina can still be a liability. Unless you and your partner are in a safe fluid-swapping relationship, remember to wrap it up.
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